People are people first, and how they fit into your life second.
I am tempted to take credit for this because Google failed me for the first time and has not come up with any hits for this quote. I did hear this a while ago from someone else but regardless of the source, this line is a real thinker. People, myself included, would most likely be much happier and would probably appreciate the people in their lives more if they remind themselves that each person is his own person (does the word "person" suddenly look funny?). Others do not exist simply to be a part of your life and cater to your wants and needs... they are each living a life of their own. It seems like common sense, but I think it is also very easy to forget.
Everyone puts so much pressure, so many hopes, and so many expectations in the people around them and are disappointed countless times. Think about any situation with another person. How many times do you go into the situation expecting that things will go a certain way? I am always expecting people to treat me a certain way, or to feel a certain way, or to react in a certain way and when they don't, I am disappointed. This is rarely because of anything that he or she did but because of the preconceived notions about the person and situation that I created in my own head.
Being a part of society means that it is important to be social, but sometimes we get so caught up in everything that we forget about ourselves. As flight attendants say in their pre-takeoff choreographed routines, help yourself before you help others. Work on turning yourself into the person you want to be, and then think about others. Because at the end of the day, it is every man for himself. That sounds harsh, but I believe that it is true.
I am going to remind myself of this more often because I tend to get pretty frustrated when other people approach a situation differently than I would, which is silly. I should have faith in that people are treating me a certain way, or feeling a certain way, or reacting in a certain way for their own certain reasons. Besides, why should I sacrifice my own peace of mind for something, or someone, over which I have no control? Why should something as important as my own happiness be based around somebody else? So you do your thing, and I'll do mine. More on this later if I am still thinking about it...